1 Peter 3:1–6 (ESV) — 1 “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.”
Submission is one of the most unpopular teachings in all of Scripture. I believe much of this is due to man’s sinful nature expressing itself in a domineering, selfish way. To understand true biblical submission, it’s helpful to understand what it is NOT.
- Submission is not allowing a husband to selfishly dominate.
- Submission is not accepting verbal or physical abuse.
- Submission is not a tool for husbands to use to subjugate their wives.
- Submission is not having to always agree with the husband.
- Submission is not being silent when the husband is doing something unwise or sinful.
- Submission is not putting the husband’s will above God’s will.
What is submission? It’s cooperating with and under the direction of the husband. It’s respecting him and helping him to make godly decisions.
For wives: Look for ways to encourage and build up your husband as he seeks to lead the family.
For husbands: Seek to be a “servant leader”. Make decisions that will benefit your wife and family, especially in the spiritual realm.
“Father God, Help me to be the kind of spouse that will bring glory to Your name. I want to be your servant to my family, either by submitting to my husband (for the wife), or leading humbly and selflessly (for the husband). Thank You that Your Son, Jesus, has given me the example I need to learn to serve rather than seeking to be served. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”